Energetic Cord Cutting and Self-Love Practices for True Closure

There are ties we can’t see with our eyes — but we feel them in our chest, in our belly, in our sleep. Emotional cords that linger long after a relationship has ended. And even when we want to move on, something still pulls us back.

This article is not from theory — it's from lived experience. From my own journey of letting go. And from the sacred work I do, supporting women like you in finding peace, closure, and soft freedom.

What is an energetic cord?

Every time we connect deeply with someone — romantically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually — an energetic thread forms between us. These cords carry memories, feelings, thoughts, and sometimes even physical sensations.

When a relationship ends, the cord doesn't always dissolve on its own. We might still dream about them, feel a wave of sadness out of nowhere, or sense that a piece of our energy is still stuck in the past. That doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. And that your energy body is asking for healing.

My personal ritual for cord cutting (with love, not bitterness)

Cord cutting is not about rejection or revenge. It’s about reclaiming yourself. It’s a sacred act of self-love — saying: “I honor what was, and I choose to move forward.”

Here’s a simple yet powerful ritual you can do at home. I’ve done it many times, both for myself and my clients.

🌙 When to do it:

Any time you feel ready — but powerful moments include the new moon, full moon, or after an emotional release.

✨ What you'll need:

• One white candle (purity of intention)

• Rose quartz or green aventurine (heart healing)

• Your favourite incense or essential oil (palo santo, sage, or rose)

• A mirror or a photo of yourself

• A journal or a piece of paper

🔮 How to do it:

1. Light the candle. Sit comfortably and take a few deep breaths.

2. Visualize: Close your eyes. Picture a silver cord connecting your heart to the person you’re ready to release. Thank the connection for what it taught you.

3. Cut the cord:Imagine a beam of golden light or a pair of energetic scissors gently cutting the cord. Watch both ends seal with light.

4. Call yourself back:Say softly:“I return what’s yours with love. I reclaim what is mine with grace. I choose peace. I choose myself.”

5. Release in writing: Write a letter or a list of what you're letting go of. When you feel complete, burn or bury it as a symbol of release.

How to fill the space — Self-love as medicine

Cord cutting creates space. And space is sacred. But it can also feel empty at first. The key is to fill it with you. Your voice. Your body. Your love.

Here are the practices I recommend for women after cord cutting:

🌸 Morning heart-touch mantra:

Before you even get out of bed, place your hand on your chest and whisper:“Today, I choose myself. I am safe. I am loved. I am enough.”

🛁 Ritual bath:

Add rose or lavender oil to your bath. Light a candle. Be present with your body. You don’t need to fix or force anything — just soften and receive.

📿 Mirror ritual:

Every morning, look into your own eyes. Say something kind. Even if it’s just:“I’m still healing, and that’s okay.”

✍️ Intuitive journaling:

Let your pen flow freely for 5 minutes a day. No filter. Let your soul speak. Write a letter from your future self — the one who is glowing, grounded, and free.

True closure isn’t forgetting — it’s remembering without pain

Closure doesn’t mean forgetting. It means remembering without ache. Without that tight knot in your stomach.

It’s when you can look back and say:“It happened. I grew. And now I honor my journey by choosing peace.”

If you're ready to go deeper — I offer private Reiki sessions that support emotional release, heart healing, and energetic alignment. You don’t have to do it alone.

I see you. I honor you. And I walk beside you as you return to yourself.

With love,

Marta

Reiki & Sound Healing Ireland

The moment you return to yourself. Cord cutting and sacred self-love practices to close the chapter and rise again.